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of competent professionals before applying or trying any suggested ideas. Behoy.
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Captain David Gallimore welcomes you aboard the Regenerate Show live
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Monday's ten am Pacific on KFHD Radio at KFOHD dot com.
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We dive into the real messy work of transforming our lives,
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leadership and organizations. Bring your hot mess and confusion to
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leave with clarity, courage, and confidence. Together, let's strengthen our resilience,
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accelerating the health of ourselves, people, plant and profits. Now
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here's your host, Captain Dave, your personal regenerator.
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All aboard, boy, I'm excited to welcome you to the
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ninth episode of Regina. Our theme this week is personal
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and professional transformation. You know what would it take to
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transform yourself, your team, your organization. This is the question
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that I first started to ask myself almost four years
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ago to become not just a better person and a
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better leader, but to make a positive difference in the world,
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to create more joy, professional freedom, and wealth while creating
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a better world faster. So this is perhaps my most
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vulnerable and authentic show to date. I've purposely not invited
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a guest to join me today, so this is a
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little scary to be out there alone for forty five
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or so minutes. But I believe that overcoming.
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That fear and uncertainty and doubt is part of the
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journey that I'm on. I suspect that, just like with
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my guests the last eight episodes, some magic will unfold.
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It's not clear yet how that might be. So I'm
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excited to see how this progresses, and I look forward
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to your comments and support if you have a chance
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to provide those. I always read and listen to comments.
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As you know, if you've been a part of the show,
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are promised to use to have some fun today. If
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we're laughing, we're learning, and I'll be laughing at myself
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more than a few times. I assure you I want
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to leave you inspired and especially to leave you empowered,
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And I just invite you to pick up a pen
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take some notes, consider applying just one idea or mindset
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shift that you here today on the Regenerate Show. Because
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transformations happen here. So what's the moment that first showed
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you who you really were? Some people think of this
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as the origin story. It's not a bio, it's not
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a resume, it's not a ce. It's the circumstances in
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our lives that shape us, that define us, that help
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us become who we were meant to be. Often it's
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circumstances that are not what we originally asked for, and
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some of them were very, very hard. And I think
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in the coming minutes, as I share with you my
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origin story, you'll get a feel for how these kinds
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of opportunities, living our lives the best that we can,
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the good, the bad, and the ugly, they forge us
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the crucible of life. So my origin story begins as
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a young lad of a British father from Sheffield, England
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and a Canadian mother Eastern Canada, Toronto, Ontario. And I
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was that kid in elementary school waiting at the bus
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wearing these British goloshes and a ball dark ball bone jacket,
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sometimes carrying an instrument and kind of talking a little
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bit differently, using more European and Commonwealth language. So I
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never quite fit in. I was that outsider, and I
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was able to navigate across these different groups, the academic group,
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the jocks, the musicians, but I frankly felt most comfortable
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being around adults. I guess I was a bit of
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an old soul, but I did have this ability at
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a young age to bring fun and lead interesting activities,
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not just during recess but also after school. So everything
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from arranging kickball and touch football to creating, designing and
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creating hiderplanes in wood that we would then pull behind
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our bikes. I organized carnivals with my sister Pamela, and
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we raised money, not very much money, you know, a
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few dollars here and there. This was back in the
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nineteen sixties for muscular dystrophy, and yet was often feeling
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alone inside and to belong I tended to try to
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overachieve my self. Worth was definitely tied to the results
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that I was creating my life. And my parents were
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parents in the sixties and seventies where children were more
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like a lump of clay to be molded than what
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my wife, Margaret, who have been married now for thirty
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five years. We took the tact of our children. Ian
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and Catherine are really land to grow and evolve, and
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we're just stewards of the land, stewards of their lives.
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I did fall victims sometimes in parenting like my dad,
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and I regret that, but those were those that era
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and how to feel good about oneself when parents were
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often very critical, especially my dad. Very accomplished engineer, director
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of quality Boeing, very smart, very accomplished, terrific public speaker,
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a great leader, and I aspired to be like him,
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but at the same time it was very intimidating, so
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I became very much an approval junkie. I won a
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lot of different awards and was accomplished musician to play
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the Greek piano concerto with my high school orchestra, and
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was the drum major for two years where we doubled
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the size of the band. So there was some really
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incredible experiences that I had growing up in school. And
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the other one that I wanted to tell briefly was
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I learned to saal when I was five that'd be
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an aeronautical engineer, and when we trimmed that sloop little
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twelve foot Yachting World Cadet PRAM and that boat accelerated.
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Oh my gosh, it was magic, the freakin magic of lyft.
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How could we my mom and dad, my sister and
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I sail up? When I was hooked and at seven,
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I snucked the sailboat off the dock, and this squall
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came through. If you've ever been on the water when
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that black, black cloud, that line is moving quickly toward you,
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and in front of it is lightning and thunder and
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high wind. And I'm out there alone in this little
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twelve foot ram sailing along, and I forgot that I
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needed to laff, which is point the bow into the squall. Instead,
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I ran away, like all good seven year olds should
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do in the face of danger. But of course I
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didn't let out my sails, and so I capsized. And
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it's the only time I've capsized in my life. And
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my parents are watching all of this unfold, and the
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best thing that they ever did was nothing. I had
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to figure out how to raise the boat from capsized
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position to upright, to bail the boat and sail the
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boat home, And from that moment on, sailing for me
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was freedom and responsibility. Problem solving freedom, so I was
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never really alone on the water. I felt like that
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was a place that I could really drive. One other
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revelation I wanted to share is that I spent decades
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working in the corporate world, starting with IBM, and then
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moved on to a couple different startups, took one of
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those public, and then worked for IBM, cap Gemini, and
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T Mobile, and really had the privilege of creating a
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lot of new valuable businesses within these large operations, what
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I finally called entrepreneuring from my dear friends Liva and
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Gifford Pinchot's book by the same title. But I never
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felt smart enough, I never felt good enough. Again that
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theme from my childhood of being an outsider and being
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an approval junkie and a rewards awards junkie. Until about
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four years ago, when I had been laid off from
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cap Gemini with another two hundred and fifty five other
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directors and vps, I was starting a new practice. It
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was not yet profitable, and I was unemployed for over
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a year, which, as the sole provider of our family,
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was incredibly stressful. But what a gift, right going back
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to what I said at the start of the show
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How Life Happens, we get our character gets forged, not crucible.
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So I finally had to start doing some significant inner
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work because I wasn't getting the results when I started
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my company in January of twenty twenty two as a
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result of the failed leadership around the globe trying to
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improve the health of our planet. And I was committed
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at that point to do what I could to clean
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up my own carbon footprint and inspire and empower others
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to do the same. So four years ago, I started
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to work on separating who I was as a person,
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a good person, worthy person, from a person who was
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not yet becoming all that he wanted to become. My transformation,
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the messy middle of my transformation was still very, very nascent.
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So we've had a number of guests on this show,
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first one being Mature Graham, who helped me do a
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lot of really good identity work and recognizing that just
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by being alive, it's a miracle and it's an incredible gift.
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And so I am not my results, I am not
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my titles. I am not the amount of money that
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I bring in as the provider. I play those roles,
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but they don't define me. And so when those results
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are not happening, I learned, although it's not been easy
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at all, that I'm enough And I really do believe
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that part of our challenge in the modern world is
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that there's a lot of people that have not yet
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had to, or if they have needed to, just maybe
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resisted the inner work looking at oneself and saying who
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am I really? What do I stand for? What matters
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to me? I never felt very smart until I decided
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to take a formal IQ test and score to the
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one thirty, which I'm told is pretty good. And now
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I feel validated a little bit more as a result
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of all this inner work. I believe in myself a
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lot more as a result of the work on the
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challenges that I've had. So it was funny all those
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years leading others and creating some pretty amazing results. I
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won calculation about nine billion dollars of value for IBM
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and Ooweing Well Data cap Gemini Immobile. But I was
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the last person I learned to lead myself. Second story,
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I want to kick off with a question, and this
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is related to have you ever been blindsided by something
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you never saw coming? So I was on a phone
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call we didn't have Zoom back then, and my VP
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called me and told me that I was being laid off.
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about two hundred and fifty five other vps and directors
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at cap Gemini. And I was absolutely in shock because
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I had just helped cap Gemini grow up practice a
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digital innovation practice the previous two and a half years
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that we grew from nothing to about twenty one million dollars.
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But more importantly, we were creating some amazing intellectual property
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that cap Gemini then spread throughout the organization. You know,
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hundreds of thousands of people were leveraging our digital innovation
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presentations and methods and works and things. I get all
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choked up just talking about it. We had just landed
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Coca Cola and Toyota, and we're starting to do strategy
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work and road mapping work, and then that was going
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to lead to, you know, hopefully millions of dollars of
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service work or the cap Gemini consultants. But it was
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still nascent. It was it was not yet profitable. We're
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probably good nine months away from being profitable, and so
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I remember feeling not only shock, but anger, fear, shame,
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more fear and then quietly joy because it wasn't as
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happy in those last years in the corporate world. It
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seemed like every meeting was contentious and there was a
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lot of fear, uncertainty and doubt, and corporations as large
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as the Boeings and the Cap Geminis and the T Mobiles,
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they get a group thing going, it's not a psychologically
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safe place to be. I was burning out. I didn't
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know it at the time, but clearly there were those
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signs of irritation and waking up at three in the
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morning not just feeling very good at all about what
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was going on in my professional life. But I had
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golden handcuffs. I was making really really good money and
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so now I wasn't And as a soul provider, that's
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incredibly challenging. And I remember that I thought, Okay, so
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I wait and tell Margaret about this, and I realized, no,
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she's my best friend, she's my soulmate, my partner. And
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I also remembered that bad news doesn't get better with age.
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So I remember sharing the news that that same day
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and she held me and we both cried. I mean,
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it was it was really heart wrenching. I had not
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experienced that before. And then she asked something that really
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helped ground me and helped me move forward, and she said,
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what do you really want to be when you grow up?
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What do you really want to do? And I didn't
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have an immediate answer, or I think I was still
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very much in shock with the layoff, But what started
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to emerge was, Hey, I'll think about this, and she said, well,
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you know, just know that I have your back, I
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have your support. Please do whatever you choose that supports
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you that it's your purpose and your mission as long
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as it's legal, she said. So that question really changed everything.
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It gave me permission to dream again and to think
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a little bit about what might be my life besides
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being a provider and being an executive leader and creating
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these entrepreneurial businesses for large corporations. So I will say
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that this origin story, I hope it's not been too meandering,
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but I think I have become a better person as
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a result of being the outsider. And I certainly become
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a better person by accepting and tacking, as all good
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sailors do, from one form to another and realizing that
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I'm not the form, I'm not the job. I am
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a good person who cares deeply about people first and