May 11, 2026

Transformation for Good - Part Two

Transformation for Good - Part Two
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Season 1

What does it take to transform personally and professionally - to become who you want to become - to be a better person, to experience more inner peace, joy, professional freedom, and wealth.
In this very authentic and vulnerable episode of REGENERATE, Captain David Gallimore shares the second update about his Hero’s Journey of personal and professional transformation.
Celebrate WINS with Capt. Dave as he shares his true tales of navigating the real, messy middle of selling a home.

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This program is designed to provide general information with regards

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to the subject matters covered. This information is given with

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Of competent professionals before applying or trying any suggested ideas. Behoy.

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Captain David Gallimore welcomes you board the Regenerate Show live

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Monday's ten am Pacific on KFOHD Radio at kfohd dot com.

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We dive into the real messy work of transforming our lives.

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Leadership and organizations. Bring your hot mess and confusion, lead

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with clarity, courage, and come together. Let's strengthen our resilience,

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accelerating the health of ourselves, people, plan and profits. Now

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here's your host, Captain Dave, your personal regenerator.

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All aboard, boy, and happy Monday. I'm so thrilled to

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be with you for episode fifteen of The Regenerator Show,

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and I was just talking to our producer Rebel before

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we kicked off today about how challenging it is to

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live a regenerative life because we just get so busy

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with family activities and there's always another email or another meeting.

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So today's theme is going to be kind of an update.

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Since the April sixth solo conversation that I had with you,

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I think a lot has happened in the month, and

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I'm looking forward to just sharing a few insights, some

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tools that I've discovered and let you know that the

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messy middle is right where you need to be and

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don't do it alone. It's not a it's better as

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a team sport. So as those of you that have

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been with me a little while, no, I define transformation

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as being or becoming who you want to become. And

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I'm riffing off of my colleague and hopefully you know

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more as the time progresses. Award winning author Joe Pine

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who has written Customization, Authenticity, The Service Economy, Sorry, the

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Experience Economy, and on February third, he published The Transformation Economy,

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which I've been devouring and you know, week by week

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just answering the questions that he has not only in

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the book but also in a transformation toolkit that I purchased.

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And so we'll talk a little bit about what's been

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going on with that, because I think having a roadmap

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when you're involved in personal and professional transformation can be

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very grounding, very very helpful to me anyway. The other

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part of transformation, I think is another Joe Pine nuance

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which I'd love, which is what is the definition of flourishing?

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And Joe defines flourishing as becoming who you were meant

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to become. Now that one's a little bit more challenging

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because sometimes, if you're anything like me, you grew up

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in a very busy household. I had two quite achieving parents.

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Love was often conditional on delivering good grades, delivering household chores,

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doing the things that my parents valued, and that was

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an era growing up in the sixties and seventies and

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two non Americans father British mother Canadian, where love was

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expressed differently. I never heard I love you, But I

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got a lot of love from the support and the

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attention and the resources and the adventures that we had

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as a family. So I felt love, but I just

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never kind of heard that express And I, on reflection

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now at sixty four, realize that a lot of my

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motivation in achieving was seeking approval from my parents, and

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then seeking approval from people in authority, people who had

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wherewithal to make my life a lot easier or to

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make my life a lot more challenging. So part of

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the transformational process for me anyway, and perhaps for you

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for those that are on this hero's journey of becoming

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who you want to become or flourishing to become who

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you were meant to become, is to really be curious

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and open about what might that look like. And if

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you've been on the show heard me talk on the

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show before, you may remember Material Graham, who is my

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kickoff guest, and he was such a brilliant support to

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rewiring my identity. Joe Pine talks about this as well,

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that any transformation requires changing our identity. So for me,

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identity was musician. I was a skier sailor, pretty good

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at school, but not the smartest kid at school. I

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had to work a lot to get the results that

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I wanted. Loved getting certifications, really loved getting kudos and awards.

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middle and high school, and that got pretty well beaten

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out of me by the time I got to college.

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Because I was now with published authors and researchers and

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people who were changing the world at eighteen nineteen years old.

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So I was mightily humbled and I had to shift

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my extrinsic motivation to intrinsic motivation and do it really

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lit me up. So in the last four and a

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half years, going from the corporate crazy as I like

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to call it, which is often very structured. Right, you

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show up Monday morning, you get your coffee, you check email,

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you go to back to back meetings, you have quarterly

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reviews or monthly reviews, you have you know, every six

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to twelve month performance reviews. It's very structured and that

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was a really helpful thing for me as a neurodiverse

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ADHD wired brain. So being a solopreneur the last four

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and a half years has been incredibly challenging because I

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wake up and I don't have to report to anybody. Well,

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we all have to report to somebody. My boss, if

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you might call her that, who I love dearly, my soulmate, Margaret.

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She definitely will if I don't have something that I've

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got in my day, She'll help me find something for

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my day. But a lot more flexibility, a lot more freedom,

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and therefore the opportunity to maybe avoid and do things

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that feel fun and are easy but not necessarily but

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are necessary and going to put food on the table

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or deal with some challenge like we all have throughout

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our lives. So since I last spoke with you a

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month ago, my wife Margaret, and I and our son

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Ian have been working very, very hard on preparing our

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home for sale. Now there's probably a number of you

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that are listening, either live or when this gets released

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on your favorite podcast Channel two. You know how fraught

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it is to prepare and sell a home. It's a

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bit of a faith based position, isn't it. Like you

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think you know the value of your house is, but

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every house has its idiosyncrasies, it has its challenges. We

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didn't have an unlimited budget or unlimited time to prep

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the house for sale. We've been kind of working on

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and off for a year and a half. But now

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the decision to put the house on the market and

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be very exposed, frankly, so we set a price after

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looking at comparative homes. Are Is built in nineteen seventy

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four to Tutor on half an acre. It's got six bedrooms.

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It's a lovely piece of property. Overlooking the water with

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access to the water. We're water wannabes, I call it.

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If sea level rise continues, we'll have waterfront in fifty

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two one hundred years. So we set a price, and

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we worked with Tamra who's one of the top producers

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for John L. Scott in our area. And what I

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love about Tamars he just takes control of the whole

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process and really just guides you and says, Okay, you

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need to show up here, we're going to do photographs there.

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You need to make sure that the house sparkles. We

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decided to invite her to stage the house, which therefore

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we had to remove all of our belongings, simplify, and

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make the home look like a prospective buyer would be

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most attracted to, so kind of seafaring theme, light, very

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light colors, making the room just look expansive and bright.

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But of course, even while we listed the house, there

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were still so many projects that were still in flight,

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and so what was fascinating about this. I'll just tell

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a little bit of a story about kind of getting

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those projects finished and they're still in process, but how

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how much resistance I had, And then after the break

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we'll talk a little bit about you know, those kinds

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of big changes like selling your home or buying a home,

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and how exposed that feels. So it's really a big

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me sea middle challenge and opportunity, but often very stressful

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for most people. So back to our story. We knew

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we had utility room to finish, We had some exterior

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painting to finish. The weather had not been cooperating in

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getting all of the trim. We did get the roof

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pressure washed, which Margaret had been standing on my head

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for almost nine years to do that, and she was right.

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It looked incredible when it was done. The fence project,

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so can you imagine a six foot high fence all

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the way around the perimeter of the property in various

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stages of decay and decline, and not really wanting to

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spend thirty thousand dollars to have a new fence. Well,

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the old fence taken down and the new fence added,

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and so I said I can do this, and oh

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my gosh. It was probably four weeks on and off

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between working on other house renovation projects but also just

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life and running Regenitive World Group. So what seemed like

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was going to take a weekend wound up taking a

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lot more time, and so we were finishing the fence

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and getting the fence painted, which, by the way, it

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came out really really well. And just you know, project

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after project, just trying to stay focused on one thing

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at a time and feel that sense of momentum and

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feel that sense of accomplishment. So now the house is

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on the market and there's a ton of interest. So

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we came on, you know, just at the right time

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in the Seattle are Yeah, not too early, not too late,

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just right. Goldielights, Goldielocks, as I say, Goldielocks and the

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Three Bears, just right. And we had, you know, hundreds

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and hundreds of views on social media, which apparently is

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a thing now when you're selling a house. In the

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twenty twenties, we had a couple open houses and a

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lot of traffic. People loved what my wife, Margaret had designed,

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you know, really making the tutor outside and the inside

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becomengruent rather than a Frankenstein house. So those of you

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that are ever wanting to put your house on the market,

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the biggest thing that I've learned from Margaret is, you

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know what style of house you own? Craftsman, mid century, modern, traditional,

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Pacific Northwest and our region and ours was a tutor,

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a British tutor, and so by being as congruent as

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consistent with that architectural vibe, people walk into the house.

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They don't know why it feels so aligned and so

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comfortable and not jarring. That's why so hot tip of

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the real estate. This is our fifth house that we renovated.

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Making the interior end, the exterior style of the house

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congruent is a great way of adding more value. So

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people were coming in, but no offers. We're going what

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we were hoping for a bidding war. The last house

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we sold ten years ago on Mercer Island, we had

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multiple offers. We had priced it just below market, which

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we did on this house, but it didn't work that way.

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So the economy and all the uncertainty around inflation at

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that time in April into this month, you know, interest

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rates have been fluctuating. They recently come down. Yeah, makes

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it easier for the buyer to take get a maybe

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a more valuable house than they might otherwise afford because

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the interest rates are a little bit lower. So yeah,

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we were probably a couple of days away from lowering

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the asking price. Probably about you know, fifty thousand and

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while the weather turned better, the cherry blossoms were out

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on the cherry tree, the rhododendron and rhododendrons and azaleas

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were starting to pop, and it was you know, the

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property was really sparkling, and we got a full priced offer. Yeah, yes, right,

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what a relief. And then of course the adventure continues.

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So any of you sold a house, you know that

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there's contingencies, and we had the typical contingencies of financing

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the closing. They'd already sold their home. The buyer had

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already sold their home, so they were waiting for the

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closing to occur. So that had to occur an inspection.

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So home inspections these days are pretty detailed, and you,

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the seller, don't get the report. I think it's a

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law that was changed in Washington State to help sellers

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who if they did get the full inspection report and

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the deal fell apart, now the seller's on the hook

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to disclose all of that in the form seventeen, which

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is the statement of the good and the bad and

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the ugly of your home, including you know, critters or

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water egress or just stuff that happens right when you

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live in a home over time. You have to disclose

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all of that, or you should disclose all of that,

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otherwise you can really get into a lot of a

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lot of challenges legally and just morally. I think. So

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we have the inspector come, you're not allowed to be there.

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days later heard from their real estate agent that the

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buyer wanted a significant credit, like eye popping, like fall

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off your chair sized request, and we thought, well, you know,

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Margaret is Margaret and I we weren't able to convince

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our family to kind of create a multi generational living environment,

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which is what we were hoping might happen. Hence the

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half an acre and six bedrooms. So that wasn't going

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to happen. We didn't need thirty eight hundred square feet

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and half an acre and all of the maintenance, which

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largely fell on Margaret, and all of the expense, and

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of course taxes and just getting contractors to come and

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the cost of materials. I mean, it's significant now to

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own a home, and I really feel for my son

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Ian and our daughter Catherine, who we had to have

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help from my parents getting a down payment and then

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pay them back, but it's much harder for young people.

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And I really think that we older folks are doing

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a disservice to our young folks by making it harder

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to build new housing, more regulation, more environmental stuff, which

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is a regenerative person, I absolutely believe. And yet we

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need to, I think, accommodate the next generation, allow them

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the same pride of ownership of a home. There's something

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magical about owning your own place. It's different than renting,

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very different. We've done both much prefer owning sense of pride,

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sense of reason. To get up in the morning, you've

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got something to maintain or clean or fix or repair.

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So back to the story and then we'll take a break.

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We were just about to meet them halfway. I thought

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that was very and reasonable. The buyer wanted us to

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replace both driveways, They wanted us to replace the pool deck.

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They wanted us to do things well beyond just an

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inspection report. It was improvements. And we had specifically priced

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the home knowing that the driveways were, you know, a

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little tired. They're near salt air and salt and concrete

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are not a good combination. But we knew that, and

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that's why we priced the home at the price that

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we did, so the buyer is going to do what

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the buyer is going to do. And then before they

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could even receive our counter to the inspection report, they

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withdrew their offer. And what was surprising to both Margaret

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herself and then to me was that was not triggering.

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We said to each other, to ourselves, Okay, wasn't meant

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to be. I would probably not would have. I probably

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would not have been able to do that, not get triggered,

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even just a couple of years ago. So all of

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this transformational work, the inner work that I did with

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Mature and Barrett and Katherine Baker and Chris Rue my

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coach out of London at Wales, it's really been working.

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So I invite you, in your own transformation to just

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keep digging and letting go the frustrations that are inevitable

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in life, and if you get triggered, find a way

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to pause, breathe think before just reacting and instead choosing

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to respond. So long story short, or as Margaret would

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remind me, sorry too late. David. The buyer came back

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less than twenty four hours after withdrawing their offer, because

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they had spent the day looking for a better house,

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and there wasn't one on the market, and this particular

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buyer was relocating and needed a place to live, and

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so they offered about ninety nine thousand dollars less but

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waived the inspection report, and we said, absolutely, we'll take

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that deal. So now the next step in the process

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is the bank appraisal, and we know that the house

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is worth more than but the buyer has offered, so

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we're going to be just fine. And our view is

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that it's time to shed this boat anchor. We've been

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dragging this house around and all of the expense. So

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when we come back from the break, commercial break, just

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a short one, I'll be talking a little bit about

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Let's get back to Regenerate right here on KFOURHD Radio

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for more life changing transformations. Here as your host, Captain Dave,

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your personal regenerator.

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Helloy, and welcome back if you're just now joining us.

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I did have a guest, but they had a conflict,

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and so it's just you and I talking about part

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two of my personal and professional transformation. And we've been

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focusing just the last few minutes on a hero's journey

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of prepping your home, our home, and selling our home,

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which is not yet complete, but we're very, very hopeful

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that everything will come to a close and the new

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buyer will take possession on June first. So, as I

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mentioned before the break, we're awaiting now the bank appraisal,

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and we're pretty sure that the house is well appraised,

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given how we've reduced or accepted an offer that's nearly

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one hundred thousand dollars less, and we had priced it

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for less to try to get the bidding war. So

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we think we're in a good place, but you never know,

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and it's a bit nerve wracking, I have to admit,

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so that would be Wednesday, and then after the appraisal,

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when it gets the check the box that we're all good,

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then we basically need to vacate, and there's just a

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couple more little things to do. I'm wanting to leave

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the home better than we certainly had found it when

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we bought it, and yet there will always be things

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that will need to be done. But I'm going to

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be focusing on the pool deck and making sure that

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the cracks and some of the issues that come up

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in the inspection report are as safe as I can

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make them. And we'll be painting, making sure that the

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boat house and the shop both sparkle, and the garage

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as well. You know, my view is to leave the

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place as I would like to find it if I

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were the new buyer, so that all they have to

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do is turn the key and bring in their stuff

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and enjoy it as much as we have. We've added

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a one year home warranty, paid for the Supreme or

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Superior or whatever the level, because when we bought this

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house ten years ago, the day that we took possession,

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the sewer grinder failed. So we're close enough to the

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water and we're kind of down a slope, so we

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have most of the homes in this area have what's

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called a sewer grinder which purets the the poop and

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vegetables and you know, anything else that goes down the

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drain and then pumps it up to the sewer line.

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And that failed, and that was a thirty three hundred

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dollars expense that we were not at all planning. So yeah,

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having a home warranty I think will help the new

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buyer peace of mind. They'll it'll cover the sewer grinder,

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it will cover the pool pumps, it will cover all

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the things that were not covered when we moved into

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our new home. And I'm also putting together an OPS manual.

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So there's a lot of moving parts. And we've created

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what I call a smart home. So the water heater,

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for example, is Internet enabled. What does that mean? And

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the ring camera system is obviously Internet enabled? So how

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do we transfer that camera feed and all of the

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electronic stuff we've got. The whole pool is a process.

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When I didn't realize this when we first bought this house,

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but when you own a pool, it's a living, breathing

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entity and you got to care for it and feed

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it the appropriate chemicals to balance the water so it's

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healthy and safe and doesn't spot an algae bloom, which

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we've had one in ten years, but yeah, thankfully only one.

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So all of this is ahead of us. And I

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would say that the spiritual growth, if you've ever bought

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or sold a house, it's to not get attached. Many

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of you have heard me talk about Michael A. Singer,

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the executive software founder who also is a student of

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Buddhism and teaches and wrote three wonderful books, including The

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Surrender Experiment and Living Untethered, and that idea that you

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get attached at your detriment. You know, if we had

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been attached to the offer from the buyer and then

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the buyer withdraws the offer, you know, one minute you're

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on a high and the next minute you're not. You're

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really oh my god, Oh my god, what's going on?

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Why did they do that? But what did I do wrong?

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All of that kind of negative energy spinning me into

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the ground. And I've been there, Oh my gosh, so

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easily to get my self worth that's attached to my

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outcomes in the past, and how difficult it is to

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let that go. So as we've if you've been listening

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to the Regenerated show, it's about strengthening this muscle of

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not being detached. You care, but not that much, and

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obviously if it's life and death, you're going to care

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a lot. But even that, I believe, you know, I

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I've adopted kind of a stoic philosophy called memento mori,

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which is translated into English as remember death. Now that

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sounds really morbid, unintended, but when you think about it,

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memento mori means, Hey, this day that I have unfolding

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could be my last. How do I want to spend it?

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Do I want to be ruminating about an offer that

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went away? Or do I want to, you know, put

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my energies into connecting with Margaret and our son Ian

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and our daughter Catherine, which is what we did. We

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just reached out to our family and we shared the

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news and then we laughed about it and connected and

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just you know, really wanted to put our attention, which

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is probably even more valuable than our time. We wanted

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to put our attention into those things that we could control.

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And if anybody knows the serenity prayer, you know, to

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let the rest of it go not easy to do.

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I fully fully appreciate how hard it is to strengthen

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this muscle. So I'm here to tell you. I want

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to point to hope that if you are willing to

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do the inner work and discover your core values, discover

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your ekey guy, what are you talented at, what are

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you passionate about? What does the world need at this

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time and being realistic about that? And what can you

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be well paid for? And I include well paid for

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to include not getting micromanaged, you know, reasonable benefits because

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we all know that healthcare, at least in this country

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is a huge expense. Could be you know, credit toward

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child care, because that's another growing in expense. So you know,

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wealth is not just the salary and the performance bonuses

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or the commission or whatever variable compensation, but it's that

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whole kind of wealth perspective. So those four circles are

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you're equing your reason for being and knowing that plus

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the brand persona, my explorer, brand persona, the maritime captain.

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Armed with those, they can be incredibly helpful in being

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detached from outcomes because you are grounded in who you

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are independent of the house offer happening or the house

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offer going away, or if you like me, are solopreneur,

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the client who says yes or the client who prospective

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client who says no, thank you. Those used to really

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be triggering and I would spiral down into a bad space.

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You know, what did I do wrong? And am I

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not good enough? And blah blah blah blah blah. And

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so I want to point to hope that in this

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second part two of my messy middle of personal and

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professional transformation, that it's not it's easy, it's simple, but

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it's not easy to do this work. And so now

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I'd like to just pivot to in the remaining few

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minutes of the radio show is talk a little bit

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about how we're better together. So related to the home,

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we have Tamra, our real estate professional. We have Jimmy

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who's an extraordinary painter. We have Osmond and Juan who

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were our finished carpenters. We had puzzle roofing, which did

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not only the pressure washing, but also the capstones that

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were deteriorating, got those repoured, and those are probably the

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oh and Rodrigo, who's our weekly gardener, those are probably

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the biggest contributors. To the team, and Sam Shaq Romanoff,

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our financial planner at Edward Jones, also an incredible resource

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for us and his team of Vicky and Laura. So

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it takes a village, and I didn't realize, you know,

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really how many people were going to help us. We

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thought maybe me arrogant Dave thought he could do a

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lot of it on his own. But there's some things

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that I could do. But I keep going over it

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and over it and over and again. My nemesis in

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terms of home renovating is to sheet rock, tape, mud,

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texture and pain. I just keep going over the the mud,

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over the seams, over and over again. Before you know it,

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they're not smooth. They're the opposite of smooth. So it

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takes a village, and that definitely translates into the business

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side of my professional transformation. I've got a deer deer

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coach out of Wales, Chris Rue, I've got my dear

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friend Barrett Eckert in Belgium, Katherine Baker, and so many

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people that I've had on the Regenerate show that have

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really made a difference in my life. Mitcheo Gram the

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original identity work that I did rewiring my identity to

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detach from outcomes to feel whole and complete. So it

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definitely took a village to improve my business results. And

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I was going over those business results with Chris and

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we basically together after I started working with him in

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twenty twenty five, we've increased the revenue of this business

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by fifty percent, oh greater than fifty percent, and it's

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been a slow ramp, but I'm here to tell you

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that I feel like I know a lot of what

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not to do, like getting spread too thin or trusting

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other people to try to market me or market and

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promote the offerings that I have in the services business.

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We're basically in the trust business, and so it's vital,

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vital that I am clear about the value that I

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can bring, not oversell it, but also not undersell it.

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And it takes a village to help get clear about

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that and then to take it to market. So in

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the coming weeks, once the dust is settled on the house,

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and I am able to focus much more on continuing

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to track great clients, continuing to explore how to create

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even more value for you on the Regenerate show. And

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I certainly appreciate any likes and comments instructive comments especially

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and if you're willing to repost, you know, I'd be

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really grateful for that. What I'm learning is focus is

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going to be my friend. And one of the things

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that I discovered which I highly highly recommend, and let's

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see if I can do the magic of sharing. So

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I'm going to click here, share screen and hit share.

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So we're going to have Marcus Bauer, who's the creator

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of Goalscape, and just to orient you, it's a very

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visual tool. So it starts out with a goal and

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in this case, my goalscape is my life. It's got

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a home. You can see is fifty percent of the priorities.

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We're going to be moving to our cottage. So that's

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not yet, that's on pause. I'm still actively working my business,

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certainly actively day to day, getting a little bit better

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with challenges in showing up consistently, doing the sales, doing

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the marketing, et cetera. This one comes from a book

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that I read about five Regrets of the Dying, and

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one of the regrets of people when they're in hospice

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and about ready to pass is that they didn't invest

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time in the relationships that mattered. So this is something

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that I'm going to be focusing on more and more

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upon the sale of the house and then finally hell

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span equaling lifespan. And my mom who will be ninety

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six on July first of this year, who is in hospice.

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She's a terrific role model where her health span and

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her life span up until I would say the last

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couple of years I've had really she's a terrific role model,

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eating you know, nutritious whole foods. She was a lifelong

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gardener and really enjoyed being out in nature. So as

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the home starts to wind down, guess what, I just

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slide this and so now it becomes nothing, and then

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these pie slices start to take over that time, and

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so this one will probably take a little bit more.

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I'll probably just minimize this one a little bit and

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continue to invest in my health and in invest in relationships,

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including heading up to Wrangle, Alaska to be with our

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granddaughter Daisy and a few future grandson who's not yet named. Now,

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with each of these, I'll just click on the on

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the sale of the house just to let you know

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how the power of this see here click on the

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right one. There we go. So if I now if

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I double click on sell the home, it brings up

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finished prep for sale projects. It's got organizing and removing

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the garage, organizing and removing the shop. Here we are

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a bank appraisal. I should probably make that a little

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bit bigger. So this is showing the prioritization relative to

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everything else that's going on. And if I double click

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on this one, it's going to show you these are

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things that I'm working on, these are things that are

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on pause, and here are some of the things that

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we've completed. If I click on the fence, anything in

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blue has been completed. And so what I really love

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about what Marcus has done, He's created a visualization of

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something that matters, a goal that matters, and then links

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the actions to that goal. And equally importantly, because you're

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able to just literally, I'm basically done with the three gates, right,

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so I can just make that when the rest of

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the size it's in a nanosecond, you can shift your

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priority and see it and see and ask the question,

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well where am I going to de emphasize things? So again,

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once the the home is sold, then what's the next priority?

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So myni neurodiverse ADHD brain is time optimistic. I think

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I can do twelve pounds of stuff in an eight

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pound bag, twelve hours of work in an eight hour day,

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and it winds up being more like thirty six hours

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of work, which is no way going to fit into

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an eight hour day. So this is I've been using

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Goalscape now for several months. I really like it. I

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highly recommend it. I've shared it with all my clients.

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Many of them are also exploring this for their use.

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So instead of having you know, dozens and dozens of

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different tools to manage your attention and your time, including

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your calendar, all the email things that you get, tasks less,

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both digital and handwritten. I'm here to say that this

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has been a game changer for me. And what's really

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cool is I can connect this to Claude. There's what's

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called API Application Program Interface. It's using what's called MCP,

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which sorry, I used to know what that stood for,

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but I don't anymore. But it's a native integration between

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Claude Anthropics, Claude, and Goalscape. So now I can have

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a conversation with Claude and I can say, hey, will

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you please build a goalscape. I was showing Chris Rue earlier.

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He is wanting to redecorate their home, and so we

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just put that goal redecoration of or of house, and

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then we clicked on a little button that says generate

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the I slices, and probably within ten seconds or less,

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it had created define the redecoration vision and plan, and

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it broke that down into sub tasks, all within like

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ten seconds. Now he's going to take this and he's

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going to refine it, and he can add new goals

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and then he can change the pist license and things.

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So I just invite those of you that struggle with

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visibility the visualization of all that you have on your plate,

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to give this a shot. I found it to be incredibly,

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incredibly valuable. So many of you know that the Regenerate

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Show is all about sharing vulnerable and authentic stories of

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the messy middle of transformation. We know that transformation is

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not for the faint of heart. It requires clarity, it

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requires a village of support because we don't get there

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on our own. And I hope that this update really

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showed you that it is possible to work through the

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inner work and that the outcomes that are now showing

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up in my life as a result of the inner work,

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rather than forcing and self discipline and all of the

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things that I have done in my past, seeking the

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approval of others, not necessarily speaking truth to power directly.

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I would be more through the side door. Some might

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say being more political, but I'm here to tell you

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that is so freeing. If you can do the inner

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work and then you can rely less on self discipline

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because you're aligned more with your EQ guy, you're aligned

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with your core values, and you have a support network

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to help you when you don't want to do it.

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You feel overwhelmed, there's too many problems or too many challenges,

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which that's that's life, right. It's an up and it's

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a down. Just before you think it can't get any better,

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it does, but then it starts to get worse. And

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then just before you think it can't get any worse,

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and it does, and then it gets better. And being

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able to be you know, care about outcomes, care about people,

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but not be attached. That detachment has been so freeing

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and has given me so much more inner piece and

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at the end of the day, inner piece and flow,

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that feeling of flow that your you know, time just

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passes because you're doing what you love. You're doing with

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people who also love what you do. Not that it's

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without conflict, because diversity, I think is so important. Versity

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of opinion, diversity of backgrounds, diversity of ethnicity and age

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and gender, sexual orientation, all of that diversity. Just like

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in nature nature, if you go into a forest, the

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strength of the forest is the nature. It is the

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diversity of the trees and the different kinds of trees

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and the shrubbery and all of that. So in closing

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rebels giving me the countdown, I love that hopefully we

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had fun today. I know I did, just being able

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to share a few insights. I hope that you feel inspired,

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that you're not alone in your transformation, and that you

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feel empowered. I've given you, hopefully some things to consider

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and to also try this goalscape tool that I highly recommend.

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So on behalf of our entire Talk four media team.

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I invite you to stay healthy, stay safe. We need

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you consider reviewing one idea that came from this particular

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show today on Personal and Professional Transformation Part two. And

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you know, the next guest I'm really excited for to

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have me here is Navid Shah and the episode theme

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is going to be being living our essence. He is

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a Dubai based leader whom I met a couple of

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years ago, and he's a coach and he's going to

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explore with me ancient wisdom encoded in Rumi's insight that

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your essence is your kingdom, so I know your investment

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of time will be well spent. We're better together, Stay healthy,

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stay safe. We need you.

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Thank you for listening to regenerate with Captain Dave on

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k for HD Radio. We invite you to give yourself

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grace and grace the messy Middle see you every Monday

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at nam Pacific time.

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Until then, you got this